August 31, 2009
Filed under: Flirting, Online Romance, Tips For Men, dating tips — Simeon @ 4:02 am
All good relationships begin with successful flirting. In other words, flirting is the first step to a successful relationship. Online flirting is fundamentally no different from real-world flirting. Flirting is an art. Exercise it with tact and care.
Here are some tips which will help you to have a successful online flirting.
1. First of all, don’t try to go too fast. But don’t be too slow either. You have to find some kind of balance between these two extremes.
2. Smart flirting is playful. Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again.
3. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life. You know that an optimistic attitude attracts females. So, you need to generate and transmit a powerful “feel good” factor.
4. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. So, compliment your online date! Do it often and sincerely. She will want to chat longer with you and to spend more time with you. And if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”.
5. Do not be self depreciating. Be yourself. Talk about yourself and about your interests, honestly and positively. Build up your image as a charming and caring partner.
6. Listen…listen…listen. Pay close attention to what she says and ask her appropriate and relevant questions. Get her to open up and talk more about herself and her interests. Make her feel like she is interesting and unique and that you are interested in her.
7. Send an email after you chat as a way of nurturing your relationship. This gesture is like sending a thank you note for a gift and it can be vital to a successful online flirting.
8. Don’t be rude. Flirting does not involve being sexually explicit nor taking offence if your prospect is not responding to you the way you expected. If she isn’t interested, take it as a valuable hint and move on to the next prospect. Remember to take time to analyze the reasons why your messages didn’t go through. Obviously, if you get a lot of rejections, you should re-consider your approach and refine your flirting style.
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August 29, 2009
Filed under: General, Tips For Men, dating tips — Simeon @ 9:19 am
You are now lucky. Your efforts have paid off. The online dating process you went through has helped you to identify your girl. What do you do next?
Simple. The first step once you have found the girl or woman you believe to be the one you really wanted for you, is to stop turning around in the online dating circles. Just cancel your membership to the online dating service for goodness sake and focus on nurturing and growing your new relationship. Be honest with yourself. Why would you keep sniffing around in the online dating services? After all, you know and she knows that online dating services are intended for those who are looking…not those who have found or who have been found.
Canceling your membership will be an indication that you have found your dream girl or woman and that you are no longer in search of somebody. That will set you free and will certainly allow you to focus on bringing that newly found relationship to the next level.
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August 27, 2009
Filed under: General, Tips For Men, dating profile, dating tips, personal ad — Simeon @ 10:35 am
You are a man. You are looking for a girl or a women that you can like, a woman that you can even come to love and live with. Obviously, you are looking for a girl or woman who also is looking for a guy that she can like or even love.
You have joined an online dating service and you hope to find the girl of your dreams.
In order to identify the right girl for you…and you know for sure that she is out there, somewhere…you have to be totally honest with yourself about yourself at all the stages of the process: while writing your online profile, during the online dating process and beyond.
Before writing your dating profile, start by carefully analyzing your past relationship, if any. How was it started? What went wrong? How did you contribute to the deterioration of your past relationship? Be totally honest! This is very important if you want to start another relationship.
Think about the reasons that made you like the last girl or woman. Which things didn’t you like about her? List the qualities you expect from your future date and make sure that you also possess the qualities that your future date would expect from a loving and caring gentleman.
The next step is to write your profile and present yourself with total honesty. Don’t claim qualities or wealth or education you don’t have. Avoid exaggerating anything. You want to build a strong and durable relationship, so it is essential that your future date chooses you, based on what you really are, and not based on lies and exaggerations.
Don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six figure income while you are just a bar tender. You could impress somebody for a short time, but you would be short-sighted to believe that your future date will stick on a relationship which started with lies. So, don’t lie about your age, your income, your hobbies, your studies, your health… Be always honest about yourself.
What you want is to find a girl or woman who will like you exactly like you are. If you have lied in your profile, your face-to-face meetings will reveal the real you, and your date will understandably doubt your honesty. She will label you in her mind as a liar…and probably a cheat, as well. Your relationship might not go further after this discovery.
So, be proud of who you are. Be honest. You will always find somebody to accept you as you are. And your online dating experience will soon be rewarded by a potentially strong relationship.
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August 25, 2009
Filed under: Online Romance, dating tips — Simeon @ 7:16 am
In order to grow over time, online relationships need nurturing, just like regular real-world relationships. Here are some tips which will help you to grow your relationship.
1. Respect each other’s privacy. If your online date sent you personal information such as personal email addresses or digital photos, avoid sharing it with others.
2. Relax, make time and take time. Get in touch with your online date regularly. Do not neglect those virtual meetings. If you neglect them, it can be perceived as neglect or abuse. Treat each other’s time with respect.
3. Don’t be too pushy about meetings. That could give off bad vibes, and that is not what you want. Communication has to be convenient for both of you. Be patient and don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust. Your reward will be great in the long run.
4. Have and enjoy online fun times together. Seek opportunities to share your joy and have fun with your online date. You can send your date electronic greeting cards, send him/her links to favorite sites reflecting your common interests, upload digital photos of your favorite pet, invite him/her to download the music you love, send him/her video clips of some precious moments in your life etc… Use your imagination and you’ll find a lot of ideas which will help you to build your relationship stronger and stronger every day.
5. If you have reached the stage of meeting and exchanging offline, then use the various romance skills you have or you learned in order to nurture your growing relationship. You can for example send him/her some greeting cards and postcards. Be imaginative, and your online dating will very soon translate in a real and durable romantic offline relationship.
So, take time to carefully nurture your online date. Be sensitive and understanding. Water your growing friendship with care and over time you will see how fast it can sprout and grow from a simple online dating to an amazing and powerful relationship.
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August 20, 2009
Filed under: General, Women, dating tips — Simeon @ 6:30 am
Some people jump into online dating without knowing what women want. What is that women want, you might ask? That’s an age old question. Let me tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk. This is very important. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. Women don’t want you to think that they fell from heaven and they are some kind of perfect being, either. They can’t live up to that kind of expectation.
Women want a good communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all. They think that you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and that you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care about what they said or didn’t even hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.
Women do not want to be perceived as a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a sort of trophy. Every woman wants to be valued as the ONE woman that you love and want to be with.
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August 19, 2009
Filed under: General, dating tips — Simeon @ 6:30 am
It is worth reminding that Online dating is not a competition. It is not a contest between competing males for the attention of a female. Please, adopt an attitude of grown-ups. Change your mindset and understand that all is not about “winning”. It is about “searching” for your soul mate.
So, your attitude is really very important.
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August 11, 2009
Filed under: Safety, dating tips — Simeon @ 10:04 am
Internet dating can be a fun and certainly a rewarding experience for women of all ages. Maintaining your security while doing it is simply a combination of using common sense and practicing good judgment. Internet security rules are the same as real world security rules. You would not give your details to a strangerthat you met in a bar or on the street so you should never do that Internet either.
Play it safe.
Get to know this personwho could turn out to be Prince Charming before you give out any detail that could make it possible for him or others to trace you.
Do not tell a stranger exactly where you work. Say that you are a legal secretary (if that’s what you are) for a small law firm. Not that you work for xyz firm. It is safe to tell him what city you live in but you should wait to be any more specific than that until you have been chatting and exchanging e-mails for some time. Use only the tools allowed by the dating service you belong to. Most bid chat and private mail on their site. Do not give out your ip mail address. When you must give out an mail address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your ip address is trackable for anyone who would like to go to the trouble.
When the time occurs for you to have your first face-to-face, make that first appointment in a public place and during day light hours. Take a friend with you or arrange for one to call you on your mobile phone soon after the arranged appointment.
Remember: you ARE in charge so do not let anyone coerce you into divulging more personal detail than you are at ease with divulging.
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August 8, 2009
Filed under: General, dating tips, personal ad — Simeon @ 6:43 am
For people who long for lasting happiness with their love life, dating is probably one of the most important activities to engage in before proceeding to more serious and challenging status like marriage.
Successful dating can really make you the happiest person.
That is why everybody is trying hard to come up with personal ads which are somehow unique and entertaining. After all, the main purpose of personal ads is to advertise one’s self.
But then, what happens next?
You have tried hard to come up with a personal ad which is unique and entertaining. You have placed your hopes in building a successful online dating experience which would hopefully lead to a successful long-lasting relationship.
You have put so much hope in your personal ad. And after weeks and even months of effort, you get no replies. What to do then when your ads fail, when you don’t get the response you hoped for?
Here are some essential tips:
1. First of all, don’t pull down your ad and become afflicted with low self-esteem. All is not lost. You must stay calm and analyze what went wrong.
2. Don’t get depressed. Don’t blame yourself for this apparent failure. Don’t even blame the apparent failure on the online dating service that you joined. Instead, take your time and calmly examine each part of your profile, and see how it can be improved to get your desired results.
3. Learn and improve how to describe yourself accurately and truthfully. Think carefully about the things you really like to do and describe them as accurately as possible. Tell about the kind of person you are. Be specific. If you don’t like loud music, say so. If you love animals and have a pet, tell about it. Make sure the person who reads your personal ad can easily visualize the kind of person you are.
Would you buy a car without knowing some details about the make model and colour? It’s the same with people. No one would want to proceed with a date unless they know exactly the kind of person they are dating.
4. Make your profile interesting and humorous, not like a report.
Write some short stories about yourself, your life and experiences. Be honest. Don’t be mushy and sound as if you want sympathy. That can also put people off. Don’t boast much about your accomplishments either. Remember that honesty is the best policy in profiles.
5. Stay positive.
I know that failed relationships can be devastating and bring back constant bad memories. However, remember that posting personal ads is not about seeking counseling help. Don’t dwell on negative aspects of your life like problems or failed relationships.
Remember: The key point in writing good personal ads is to come up with something that will appear very interesting and will grab the attention of your potential date.
So, if at some stage you haven’t had any response to your ad yet, follow these hints and try again. You will then be able to change your apparent failure around and head for a real success.
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August 5, 2009
Filed under: Safety, dating tips — Simeon @ 4:49 pm
While investing your time and energy in finding your dream match through online dating, it is important to remember that safety is paramount. Have fun but don’t neglect safety and common sense.
First of all, remember always to protect your computer with good antivirus and firewall. You know it already, but it is worth repeating here: before you head out into the Internet realm, take care of your equipment and your network. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. If you don’t want to spend money on expensive packages, you can still use the good free alternatives such as ZoneAlarm (firewall from www.zonelabs.com) and AVG (Anti-Virus from www.grisoft.com).
Another important element to remember: Do your due diligence.
Prepare yourself by making some research about some dating sites. Seek and choose an appropriate online dating service. Word of mouth still plays an important role in the spreading of information. You might know friends, neighbors, co-workers and others who have tried online dating and who can tell you of their own experience. Visit the forums of some dating sites and when you sign up to an online dating site, take the precautions we have already talked about regarding how to protect yourself and avoid releasing much of your personal information.
Enjoy your online dating experience.
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Filed under: General, dating tips — Simeon @ 2:33 am
To increase your chances of finding someone truly special that you can connect with, you need to build a truly unique and unforgettable online dating personal ad.
Experts recomment that you include plenty of information with your online dating profile. However be careful about what kind of personal information you’d disclose on your online personal ad.
- Never post online your phone number, address, place of employment, or other identifying information.
- Post plenty of the innocuous tidbits about yourself. These are things that will help you find someone with common interests, hobbies, personal preferences, music, movies, food and many other important things. The last thing you want is to go out with someone whom you have nothing in common.
- Many online personal ads feature a host of features that allow you to post your personal pictures. Take advantage of these features, and post flattering pictures of yourself. Remember: Your goal is to be set up with as many potential compatible matches as possible. So, fill out all of the information requested on the profile form. This ensures that you are set up with as many possible candidates as possible.
Follow these tips and you will be able to take full advantage of the full spectrum of matching capabilities offered by the online dating service of your choice.
Enjoy your online dating experience.
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