September 28, 2009
Filed under: General, Tips For Women, Women, dating tips — Simeon @ 9:30 am
There are obviously some things that women should avoid while engaged in an internet relationship with a man. These things can put a quick end to any further communication with him.
While communicating by email or chatting online, do not write your life story. His eyes might glaze over and he could fall out of his chair. Keep it sweet and short until he asks for details…then provide them slowly. Remember: only answer the questions he asks. For example, he might ask you how many siblings you have. He is NOT obviously asking for details about your interaction with them. He just wants to know how many you have. Say you have 1, 2, 3 (or whatever is your reality) and then, in turn, ask him also how many he has. Why not? For every question he asks you, don’t be shy: you can also ask one of him.
Never, ever, EVER lie. You know it already: lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many people, women and men alike, are tempted to lie about their age, employment, marital status, weight, height, and a wide host of other small things in their online profiles. That is certainly a big mistake. Suppose you find a gentleman who you are genuinely interested in and he later finds out you lied to him. There goes suddenly any possibility of the relationship progressing any further. So, the rule of thumb is: just be honest. There is certainly someone out there who genuinely will like you…even will come to love you…for exactly who you are.
Don’t be too eager. It would make you look desperate and it is very likely to put a prospect (man) off. Men are first and foremost conquerors. They are funny! If they feel that getting the person of their choice is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest and the initial enthusiasm. I don’t advise you to play the “hard-to-get” either. I only mean: don’t be too eager to push for a face-to-face meeting for example. Control the frequency of your emails. Don’t email them or IM them too frequently. Play it safe always and play it cool. Your success will be guaranteed.
Enjoy your dating.
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September 6, 2009
Filed under: Flirting, General, Safety, Tips For Men, Tips For Women, dating tips — Simeon @ 9:01 am
You have gone through the personal ads and have filtered out potential dates according to compatibility and other essential factors. Through e-mail and telephone conversations, you have already taken some time in getting to know better that someone special you met through your online dating service. You feel now truly attracted to that person and you have decided to have a first face-to-face meeting.
Here are a few tips for your first date:
Make sure your first date is as low pressure as possible.
Keep it short and casual. You should not attempt to meet for a fancy dinner for the first time you meet.
Arrange to meet in a public space, somewhere that is active and full of people like a shopping center, a busy coffee bar…
A word of caution for women. Remember: your safety is paramount. Even though you have been exchanging messages and talking on the phone, that person is still a stranger and you only know from him what he told you. So be careful and avoid falling in a trap. Things can still get awkward and you have to keep that in mind.
Enjoy your dating experience.
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September 4, 2009
Filed under: General, Tips For Men, Tips For Women, dating tips — Simeon @ 6:43 am
Many people ask how you can know that it’s time to ask your potential love to go out on a first real date. All depends on the character and the dating style of both of you. There are people who think that you should ask for a date right away. Others believe that you should take it slow as described earlier, getting to know the person via e-mail and telephone first. The truth is that this has a lot to do with your own personal dating style, and the dating style of the person you are talking to.
However, bear in mind that many online relationships have withered away because the first date was never set up, or it was set up too late. Ideally, you will want to set up your first date when you feel comfortable with that person, comfortable enough at least, to meet them in person and to envisage a stronger relationship. In general, you should ask for the first date after you have exchanged messages and emails, and you have talked to the person on the phone at least two or three times.
Remember, you will be spending time, money and energy with this person in this first date. So, make sure it is someone you feel compatible with. The rule of thumb should be: “whatever you do, don’t wait too long”. Waiting too long could set up too many expectations and could potentially put too much pressure on you when you finally set up that first offline face-to-face meeting.
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August 29, 2009
Filed under: General, Tips For Men, dating tips — Simeon @ 9:19 am
You are now lucky. Your efforts have paid off. The online dating process you went through has helped you to identify your girl. What do you do next?
Simple. The first step once you have found the girl or woman you believe to be the one you really wanted for you, is to stop turning around in the online dating circles. Just cancel your membership to the online dating service for goodness sake and focus on nurturing and growing your new relationship. Be honest with yourself. Why would you keep sniffing around in the online dating services? After all, you know and she knows that online dating services are intended for those who are looking…not those who have found or who have been found.
Canceling your membership will be an indication that you have found your dream girl or woman and that you are no longer in search of somebody. That will set you free and will certainly allow you to focus on bringing that newly found relationship to the next level.
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August 27, 2009
Filed under: General, Tips For Men, dating profile, dating tips, personal ad — Simeon @ 10:35 am
You are a man. You are looking for a girl or a women that you can like, a woman that you can even come to love and live with. Obviously, you are looking for a girl or woman who also is looking for a guy that she can like or even love.
You have joined an online dating service and you hope to find the girl of your dreams.
In order to identify the right girl for you…and you know for sure that she is out there, somewhere…you have to be totally honest with yourself about yourself at all the stages of the process: while writing your online profile, during the online dating process and beyond.
Before writing your dating profile, start by carefully analyzing your past relationship, if any. How was it started? What went wrong? How did you contribute to the deterioration of your past relationship? Be totally honest! This is very important if you want to start another relationship.
Think about the reasons that made you like the last girl or woman. Which things didn’t you like about her? List the qualities you expect from your future date and make sure that you also possess the qualities that your future date would expect from a loving and caring gentleman.
The next step is to write your profile and present yourself with total honesty. Don’t claim qualities or wealth or education you don’t have. Avoid exaggerating anything. You want to build a strong and durable relationship, so it is essential that your future date chooses you, based on what you really are, and not based on lies and exaggerations.
Don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six figure income while you are just a bar tender. You could impress somebody for a short time, but you would be short-sighted to believe that your future date will stick on a relationship which started with lies. So, don’t lie about your age, your income, your hobbies, your studies, your health… Be always honest about yourself.
What you want is to find a girl or woman who will like you exactly like you are. If you have lied in your profile, your face-to-face meetings will reveal the real you, and your date will understandably doubt your honesty. She will label you in her mind as a liar…and probably a cheat, as well. Your relationship might not go further after this discovery.
So, be proud of who you are. Be honest. You will always find somebody to accept you as you are. And your online dating experience will soon be rewarded by a potentially strong relationship.
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August 20, 2009
Filed under: General, Women, dating tips — Simeon @ 6:30 am
Some people jump into online dating without knowing what women want. What is that women want, you might ask? That’s an age old question. Let me tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk. This is very important. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. Women don’t want you to think that they fell from heaven and they are some kind of perfect being, either. They can’t live up to that kind of expectation.
Women want a good communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all. They think that you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and that you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care about what they said or didn’t even hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.
Women do not want to be perceived as a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a sort of trophy. Every woman wants to be valued as the ONE woman that you love and want to be with.
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August 19, 2009
Filed under: General, dating tips — Simeon @ 6:30 am
It is worth reminding that Online dating is not a competition. It is not a contest between competing males for the attention of a female. Please, adopt an attitude of grown-ups. Change your mindset and understand that all is not about “winning”. It is about “searching” for your soul mate.
So, your attitude is really very important.
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August 8, 2009
Filed under: General, dating tips, personal ad — Simeon @ 6:43 am
For people who long for lasting happiness with their love life, dating is probably one of the most important activities to engage in before proceeding to more serious and challenging status like marriage.
Successful dating can really make you the happiest person.
That is why everybody is trying hard to come up with personal ads which are somehow unique and entertaining. After all, the main purpose of personal ads is to advertise one’s self.
But then, what happens next?
You have tried hard to come up with a personal ad which is unique and entertaining. You have placed your hopes in building a successful online dating experience which would hopefully lead to a successful long-lasting relationship.
You have put so much hope in your personal ad. And after weeks and even months of effort, you get no replies. What to do then when your ads fail, when you don’t get the response you hoped for?
Here are some essential tips:
1. First of all, don’t pull down your ad and become afflicted with low self-esteem. All is not lost. You must stay calm and analyze what went wrong.
2. Don’t get depressed. Don’t blame yourself for this apparent failure. Don’t even blame the apparent failure on the online dating service that you joined. Instead, take your time and calmly examine each part of your profile, and see how it can be improved to get your desired results.
3. Learn and improve how to describe yourself accurately and truthfully. Think carefully about the things you really like to do and describe them as accurately as possible. Tell about the kind of person you are. Be specific. If you don’t like loud music, say so. If you love animals and have a pet, tell about it. Make sure the person who reads your personal ad can easily visualize the kind of person you are.
Would you buy a car without knowing some details about the make model and colour? It’s the same with people. No one would want to proceed with a date unless they know exactly the kind of person they are dating.
4. Make your profile interesting and humorous, not like a report.
Write some short stories about yourself, your life and experiences. Be honest. Don’t be mushy and sound as if you want sympathy. That can also put people off. Don’t boast much about your accomplishments either. Remember that honesty is the best policy in profiles.
5. Stay positive.
I know that failed relationships can be devastating and bring back constant bad memories. However, remember that posting personal ads is not about seeking counseling help. Don’t dwell on negative aspects of your life like problems or failed relationships.
Remember: The key point in writing good personal ads is to come up with something that will appear very interesting and will grab the attention of your potential date.
So, if at some stage you haven’t had any response to your ad yet, follow these hints and try again. You will then be able to change your apparent failure around and head for a real success.
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August 5, 2009
Filed under: General, dating tips — Simeon @ 2:33 am
To increase your chances of finding someone truly special that you can connect with, you need to build a truly unique and unforgettable online dating personal ad.
Experts recomment that you include plenty of information with your online dating profile. However be careful about what kind of personal information you’d disclose on your online personal ad.
- Never post online your phone number, address, place of employment, or other identifying information.
- Post plenty of the innocuous tidbits about yourself. These are things that will help you find someone with common interests, hobbies, personal preferences, music, movies, food and many other important things. The last thing you want is to go out with someone whom you have nothing in common.
- Many online personal ads feature a host of features that allow you to post your personal pictures. Take advantage of these features, and post flattering pictures of yourself. Remember: Your goal is to be set up with as many potential compatible matches as possible. So, fill out all of the information requested on the profile form. This ensures that you are set up with as many possible candidates as possible.
Follow these tips and you will be able to take full advantage of the full spectrum of matching capabilities offered by the online dating service of your choice.
Enjoy your online dating experience.
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August 3, 2009
Filed under: General, dating tips — Simeon @ 2:36 am
Online dating profiles or personal ads have become so important these days. The reason is because online dating has never been as popular as it is right now. And with its popularity has increased the necessity of writing good personal ads in your profile. The art of crafting a personal ad has become one of the most important online topics today.
With so many dating websites on the Internet, there are millions of singles and lonely souls looking for love at any given moment.
The Internet offers an amazing wealth of information and love resources for single people and for people in quest of love and happiness. But unfortunately, that means plenty of competition for every seeking person currently in the crowded online dating pool.
Throwing there a few words would no longer be enough. The time is over when you could just string together a series of acronyms and reasonably expect to find a hot date for the following Saturday night.
It is important to understand that writing a few casual lines in your online dating profile won’t bring you the kind of success you are looking for. More is expected from you if you want to get the best results.
If you want to stand out from the rest, you need to place the most eye-catching and original dating ad that you can write up. In fact, writing an online personal ad is not difficult at all. It requires a few hours work, but you will notice how rewarding it is.
To-morrow, we will talk about the information you can include in your online dating profile.
Enjoy your online dating experience.
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